Blog - December 31, 2014

The Journey

I’m about to bombard you with a little too much detail about myself. I stuck to writing about other people and things throughout the year because i didn’t want to put my narcissistic self to work. But then , It’s the en d of the year already and we are starting a new year in different ways all over  the world, so  I decided to indulge myself a little, crave ya all’s indulgence too and give you a ‘summarised summary’ of how my 2014 went. Thanks for reading. I begin.

2013 ended well, to an extent. I had my first degree and NYSC certificate on ground, I had commenced my MA programme at a renowned University, I had beautiful friends around me, Family stayed  100 and I had a partner in whom I assumed I had gotten ‘the one’ . everything seemed so rosy and I sometimes used to want to pinch myself just to be sure It was real life and these yummy things were really happening to me. Indeed, they were and I was very grateful to my creator and all those who made that possible. The New year came in with promises of beautiful things and I could only hope not to be too overwhelmed by them. Alhamdulilah

January came and I had my birthday as an almost totally fulfilled young lady.What more could I want? The gift of life and its beautiful attachments were enough for me to dance all day, I had friends who were encouraging me and telling me they were indeed proud of how I was living my life. ( sure there were those who had only negative things to insinuate but they don’t really matter so we d keep them that way).   I resumed seond semester in  school  and we were all eager for it to come to an end ( the 6 month ASUU strike had delayed things enough already ).  Things still went well and the only time I shook a little was when a particular course was proving to be too much than i bargained for. ( lol my colleagues understand this ). Alhamdulilah

In February, I was on my way home when my sister called to tell me about an accident that had claimed the lives of a girl we knew, her brother, her brother’s wife and their kid, while coming back from  the girl’s school where she was picked after her final exams. Ah! I could not comprehend this, what would her parents be thinking of?  How would they feel? I cried all the way home and people were just staring at me in the cab. It was a painful period and I still cringe at the thought of it. I kept praying to the lord to grant their parents peace.

Fast forward to March, my ‘used to be awesome’ relationship crumbled and at first it seemed almost impossible.  This totally shook me and I practically went off social media, reason being that facing the world was too difficult. Alas, I came to terms with myself and came back online to deal with the inevitable. The questions came in and i gave them honest answers, oh yh I need to chip in that friends were awesome and they tried so well to make me feel good, I was amazed. It wasn’t as hard as I thought and I dusted my little behind to continue my journey through life as the ever cheerful lady everybody had grown accustomed to.  Alhamdulilah

School work didn’t recognise my ‘relationship issues’ and hence, it hit me straight in the face, reminding me I had so much to do and I would not want to regret that period of my life by drooling for long. It got easier by the day and I added that to my book of many life lessons ( Needless to say that  It is a really bulky book ).  One day, I woke up to the news that a friend had died through an accident.  Again?It was a totally dark day for me, I could only pray to Allah for the repose of her soul. It waa a totally shocking incident but how does one start to question one’s creator who takes and gives lives as he takes.  I could only cry to him to stop these tragic occurrences. Amin amin Amin.
Well, the semester ended and then came the project semester.  I started of lazy and then It came as news to us that we had a deadline, If we intended to convoke the same year. We had barely three months to submit a perfectly done project which should have taken six months or more.  We never hexperredit! Alhamdulilah.  It was so hard to think about because things were not looking encouraging at all as i intended to do a really concise work and not just rush things over. I kept praying to God to make things easier for me as it was obvious I could do nothing without him.
On a particular day, I was talking to my mum over the phone, in tears. I told her I wasn’t sure i could do it and I might have to carry it over to the next year. Mum calmly said ‘No, you will meet the deadline and all the requirements, I know you can do it’. That was all the push I needed.  The enrgy surged from nowhere and then the good lord sent some amazing and intelligent friends my way, to help. This coupled with having an awesome supervisor contributed to me meeting up with the deadline and alhamdulillah, I submitted and defended first!

After crossing this big hurdle, then came the news that we weren’t actually convoking and we still had to wait till the next year. Waaaaaat?  What was all the stress for? It was totally disappointing but our hands were tied as regards this. I just believed that this also had a reason, just as Ive grown to know that god always has a reason for every occurrence in a human’s life.  Days rolled by and the convocation schedule came out for those that would convoke. I really wished we were part of this but all we could do was wish. Yhen a colleague of mine buzzed about a week before the convocation day and said we were really gonna convoke. Yaaaaaaaaaaa, I couldn’t contain my excitement, Alhamdulilah again.

 Convocation came and I was the happiest girl. Lol. I understand what i mean by this. It wasn’t in any way easy but with God they say, seemingly impossible things happen. . Days been running by and this is December.   I still have so much to write but i know the boredom i already getting out of hand. Lol. It only boils down to the fact that the year has not been entirely rosy but we give thanks still.  I keep realising by the day that discoveries would be made daily and there is no stop to occurrences in life. Friends will leave, lovers will give up on you, passers by would criticise and people who  barely know you would judge.  In the midst of this all, just stay true to yourself and be steady in  your faith. Have plenty belief in your self and be very prayerful. It gets better.

I attended plenty owambes tthis year, my friends took the marriage Institution by storm and I was excited to be a part of it. Shout out to ya all, May the marriages be blessed!. My sister also started her makeup business which she has always wanted and you know, yours truly is the stand by Model!. Other successes recorded would be left unannounced for security reasons. Lol. As I see it, there were lows and there were more lows. Positives were also recorded and when I weigh it, the high sides outweighed the not so cool sides. What I gained was way more than what I lost. See? It will be beautiful. . Feel free to take a look at some parts of my picture gallery. Note: The smile never went, through all odds!

This piece is also to make people that feel I always have it easy to know that,It isn’t exactly that way, I have just learnt to smile through stuff because it always gets better.  We are all in this ‘human’ thing together.   I have learnt that : WE PLAN, AND GOD PLANS AND WHO IS THE BEST OF PLANNERS? GOD!  I am going into the new year with a very positive mindset and Im hopeful that by the end of 2015,  I would have a more robust and success filled reveiew for ya all. I pray for my readers and people around me, May we be happy, may we be very happy, may we be very very very happy. Happy new year soon  and don’t forget to wish me a happy birthday on the 4thof January. Btw, tell someone you love them today, study shows that it eases stress. I LOVE YOU. I’m out. BOS

Comments (29)

  1. December 31, 2014

    Life is full of up and downs, the victors are the onez that can smile tru their tears nd still say “I am alright” and mean it. Well done honey… continue to stay strong. Praying 2015 will ve much more to offer all of us. More of good news and less bad news. Insha Allah.

  2. December 31, 2014

    We never hexperrerit. Alhandulilah still, Allah never leaves His own. More joyful stories and events to unfold in 2015 for everyone

  3. December 31, 2014

    Lol…Once again you found a way to do the narrative in a “smileful” manner. He will lead us all right in His chosen path all the days of our lives. Amen

  4. December 31, 2014

    Through thick and thin you maintained a heart of gratitude, it was only just that Allah crowned your efforts with success, wishing you a great 2015, may all your pending desires be granted insha Allah, I love you

  5. December 31, 2014

    Oftentimes we are faced with tough situations, left with the choice of seeing them as obstacles or challenges, and coming off triumphant with the latter perception. It's inspiring how you picked yourself up severally for it's the most important part of falling. Allah will constantly test us and surprise us beyond comprehension when we least expect it. I'd say it was a fulfilling year despite the 'not so rosy' moments. The future looks promising and I pray Allah continues to guide, bless, and protect us all. Amin. Very well written piece this one.

  6. Olatoun

    December 31, 2014

    I love love love this post. I'm glad to have been a part of your life in 2014, i'm glad you were a part of mine too. Love you darl 🙂

  7. December 31, 2014

    Long, but rich, super rich. Nice one hun. I loved the fact that your “high sides outweighed the not so cool ones”, and that, I must say, is enough to tag a year 'fulfilled'. Congrats hun. I wish you far better achievements this coming year.

    Stay happy!

    Happy New Year to you and your family in advance. Cheers.

  8. December 31, 2014

    الْحَمْدُ للَّهِ رَبِّ الْعَـلَمِينَ ,May Almighty Allah ease your in this coming year منشا الله

  9. December 31, 2014

    Amin Fauzeeyah. I'm very glad 2014 brought you my way. You are awesome and I pray for Allah's unending mercy in your life. Thank you

  10. December 31, 2014

    Amin Fauzeeyah. I'm very glad 2014 brought you my way. You are awesome and I pray for Allah's unending mercy in your life. Thank you

  11. December 31, 2014

    Lol you sure never hexperrerit. Thank you my beautiful baby. May you be genuinely happy In sha Allah

  12. December 31, 2014

    My sister my sister. Amin. Thank you for everything. God bless you plenty ma

  13. January 1, 2015

    The day I met you at the PG school, I knew there was much more about you than what I could see. I wasn't wrong. I know some parts of this truth and I have watched you shake the dust and the pain off. You are an amazing woman, keep it that way. Plenty love from me to you babe. Do have an extra-amazing year :*.

  14. January 1, 2015

    Oyesunkanmi mi, Amin. What other bestie could I have wished for? I cherish you for being in my life and for never leaving. May our wishes be granted

  15. January 1, 2015

    Thank you so much Prince. Amin. Yes the future indeed is promising. You,my dear, are amazing

  16. January 1, 2015

    OlaToun the bae, You made it all seem so easy. You never listened to the crowd, you offered me more dan I ever would expect in a friendship. I love you baby, May Allah prosper us

  17. January 1, 2015

    Jubril my designer of life. People like you, who stay despite it all, are the reason why I'd never stop thanking God. Thanks for the year hun, let's do this again In sha Allah

  18. January 1, 2015

    Amin brother. I wish the very best to you and your family. Thank you for everything

  19. January 1, 2015

    Oh my! Bunmi. So beautiful, yet so humble. I can't get over how you always check on me and how you encourage me all the time. You ve been amazing in more ways than one and I'm glad for the gift of your friendship. May God bless you plenty hun

  20. January 1, 2015

    True as it came mam….U make me want to recount my 2014 too….guess I was part of your 2014 yea? I sure must be self lol

  21. January 1, 2015

    Yes Sa'eedah my baby. You sure were. Even tho we had our moments, I'm glad we outgrew that and learnt to embrace our inner geniuses. Stay beautiful Laiskeen goddess :*

  22. January 1, 2015

    Beautiful piece….straight from the heart….i'm glad to have known you….i'm glad in all you came out stronger….2015 will be a great year for you…the sky is not your limit hun…it's just the beginning :*

  23. January 1, 2015

    You kept smiling through it all. May Allah S.W.T always give you a reason to smile genuinely hun. Have a Happy and fulfilling year ahead and happy birthday in advance booboo!

  24. January 1, 2015

    Yes yes Daniel. Thank you so much. I'm very proud to know you too. Happy new year

  25. January 1, 2015

    Thank you pretty lady. Thanks for taking all my yabs and jabs in good faith. People like you make my world very colourful. You have a new year too

  26. Anonymous

    January 1, 2015

    Truly inspiring. ..

  27. January 4, 2015

    Smiling tru it all confuses them…inspiring!

  28. January 4, 2015

    You're an amazing person. Stay that way. Don't ever change. You inspire me! May Allah S.W.T always be your guardian. You shall always have a reason to smile. Do have a very awesome New Year. Love you dearly.

  29. atoaan

    January 6, 2015

    Well, i think its a good thing that you can actually pause and.reflect on the journey of 2014. In fact, i think its a great thing! A wise man once said, “In order for you to know where u wanna be, u must first know where you're coming from.” So, i'm glad that my good friend Omotolani acknowledges the value of “the journey”, because at the end of the day, the journey is more important than the destination. It is on the journey that the lessons are learned, it is on the journey that the friendships are nurtured, it is on the journey that the memories are made. Therefore, as you Omotolani, venture into another phase of your life this year, it is my prayer for you that the journey ahead be filled with good lessons to be learned, amazing friendship to be cherished, and great memories to be treasured!
    Happy Birthday once again my dear friend!…. CHEERS!!!
    Best Regards,
    ~Atoaan “atL” Ollor

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