Blog - June 10, 2014
Take a seat, Enjoy the ride. I’m just gonna relax and enjoy my life. I’ll take some smile to smell the grass and the flowers,I’ll bask in the sun and dance in the rain…. Familiar words right? Yes, those are jumbled lyrics of ‘Dance in the rain’ by my favourite Naija artiste, 2face Idibia. I can’t get enough of this song.
Ok. What are we trying to say today? It’s all about making peace. Letting go of the negative vibes. Appreciating the little things. Letting the hurt go. Forgiving people. Understanding that Human beings have to err, it is inevitable. We all have erred in one way or the other, haven’t we? You might start thinking ‘Oh no, I don’t hurt people, I don’t go breaking hearts’ . But my dear, do u know how many unconscious acts of yours have cut people deep and made them feel unwanted and less of themselves? Think again.
Recently, I called up a friend of mine from way back, I couldn’t hold it anymore. I realised I always thought about how much she hurt me and the many times I was disappointed by her acts towards me . But then I thought again, How many people feel this way about me? How many people have I hurt by my actions? How many things have I done to make people feel they would never forgive me? Should I constantly grow a dislike for someone when I might be guilty of the same thing I feel she has done to me? All these and many more ran through my mind and I found myself dialling her number. Hello dear, how are you?’ The peace I felt after this is very very indescribable.
This might look so cliche and ‘norm looking’ but sincerely, It is very important. Don’t wait till someone dies and you start regretting not being at peace with them. Death doesn’t tell us it’s on its way. Do not be ashamed to take the bold step today. I know you’d think ‘oh this girl should be the one to apologise,not me’. Darling,Life is not the abc you think it is. Go ahead with ur intentions to be at peace with yourself and everyone around. You’d be amazed at the serenity that comes with it.
Do yourself some good by contacting a friend who turned foe today. Don’t mind the nagging thoughts that you are better off without them. Nobody is saying you have to be besties with everyone. Just be at peace. Let the grudge leave as it came. You don’t know how helpful you all could be for one another. And again, Remember, DEATH.
When it gets too long, it gets boring. I’d consider this and save you all from the yawns by stopping here.If I have done you wrong or made you feel some typa way that is not too pleasant and you get to read this, do holla, I’d do the needful ☺. So You, I wish you the best as I trust you would follow my advice and even go farther. Make yourself happy and be at peace! Listen to 2face Idibia’s Dance in the rain and put it on repeat. I’ll be back….. BOS
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Being at peace with people is the most effective medicine for curing unhappiness. the curative effect can never be over emphasized. when u are at peace with people,it gives u perpetual joy and happiness! kudos to you dear. I laud ur literary sagacity!
Nice piece Tolani, I think it's important for everyone to be at peace with the people around 'em. Even if it's not for the sake of “death”, but just because it is the right thing to do!
I sometimes get to wonder what the joy is in keeping extended quarells with someone, especially if it's a friend. Sometimes it's easy for us to loose sight of the things in life that are most important. It's easy for us to get carried away and forget…. But truth is, when the chips get down to it, u'd realize that the most important thing in dis life's the people in it! More than all the money, more than all the material stuff, at the end of the day, the people we surround ourselves with are what adds value to our lives. A friend of mine told me recently, he said, “God's not gonna come down from heaven to help you when u're in need. The help we get, the push we need, more often than not, comes from the relationships we keep with people.” And I totally agree with him!
Beautiful piece Omotolani, succinctly put! Being at peace with others helps to be at peace with one's self and yea the world becomes a tad bit better.