Blog - November 8, 2022
Day 8 : The November Happiness Challenge
How can we not talk about Family when Family is all we’ve got
? (See you again. Charlie Puth ft Wiz Khalifa)
I started this series with some experiences I had while growing up with my Nuclear family, so you should already know that I hold family dear. I do not joke with them, and I am very enthusiastic about building my own wonderful family too; So help me God.
One thing in life that we don’t get to choose is our family. Because really, we all are born into different households and we grow up knowing these people as those we have been connected and bonded by blood. This means that if you are born into a Family that truly care for you and give you a safe space to thrive, it isn’t by your doing and you should be very thankful for it. This shouldn’t make you look down on or berate those who don’t have it as good or fancy, it isn’t their fault. What they can do is make sure that they are able to change the story and build a better family when they have the capability to.
I am very happy and pleased with the family that I was born into. I have a mother who listens to every thing we have to say and gives us the liberty to be free with her. I have a Father who wouldn’t relent in going out of his way to ensure that we are doing fine. And my siblings? Oh my siblings. I have a brother whose interactions with me alone make me laugh so much and want him to never stop, and I have a sister who is similar to my mum in sayings and actions. I aknowledge my blessings, I am grateful for them.
Family is a big deal, and we have such huge obligations to them as long as they aren’t obligations that make us go out of our ideals. I see Family as a shield that the Almighty carefully created for everyone before they were bornT because He already knows the emptiness and instability of this world. They are our cover, our hope and strength when it is all gloomy.
This also goes for extended Families. For some people, they have a very beautiful relationship with their extended family and you’d see them speak glowingly of their uncles, aunties, cousins and so on. There are people who are very distant family members but they still ensure to keep the ties of kinship and step in from time to time. I find this so amazing. When you meet some extended families and how close knit they are, you’d almost find yourself begging for a spot among them. It isn’t because they never have their misunderstandings or disagreements, but they always rise over it and believe that Family is everything.
I see some of my friends start a new job or move to a new city or just have something good happening to them and when they narrate how it came to be , they would mention one family member or the other. It makes me very happy to see that indeed, Family members show up and show out for theirs. I aknowledge that not all families are this way and some are never helpful, but today , we speak of the helpful ones and we uphold them as the true gems they are. Don’t forget that regardless of the experience you have had, you have the opportunity to be better and contribute your quota in building healthy and close knit families when you are able to.
When building your Social Capital, most times, the Family unit comes first because they are your immediate resource and go to, and what is this life if we do not have a solid Social capital? Mothers and Fathers and Sisters and brothers and Aunties and Uncles and Grandparents and Cousins do so much for one another and it cannot be overemphasized. God who created the Family unit truly had His reasons for doing so as we can see all around us.
I know that the order of the day is that we should cut toxic family members off and we should not allow any ‘nonsense’from them. However, let us also ensure that we aren’t the toxic ones we speak of, and let’s try to cut our family members some slack and be quick to forgive them. Except they have repeatedly shown harmful behaviour that you just cannot cope with, please don’t keep them away. Please make peace with those you aren’t in good terms with even if you don’t want to be close to them. You can be at peace with people without necesarily seeing them every time or being in their space. Family is important!
Seeing sisters and brothers be one another’s best friends and watching them go all out for one another brings me a special kind of joy. Cousins too, and any family member, really. There are people who look forward to country home trips because they are eager to see and bond with their Family members because of how beautiful the existing relationship is. These are the things I love to see!
Today, we are going to define what Family means to us and how they have come through for us at one point or the other.Let’s share beautiful Family stories.
I’ll be back. OBA