Blog - November 6, 2022
Day 6: The November Happiness Challenge 2022
I know sometimes, e be like say nobody send you, that one na lie, I dey for you my friend. (Johnny Drille: How are you my friend)
The line from the song above aptly describes what Friendship means to me. I am very interested and invested in how my friends are faring from time to time and you’d see me checking on them and sending them caring gestures in form of gifts and words to assure and reassure them of my ever readiness to be there for them.
Friendship is very deep to me, and I believe it is one of the greatest things that God has blessed us with. For some people, they have a small circle of friends and it works for them. For other people like me, there are many friends who we hold close to our hearts and that is fine too. Whichever one you decide to go for or you find yourself with, just ensure that you are doing it whole heartedly and that you stay true.
We all need friendships and I cannot emphasize this enough. They are the people with whom we share our wins and non wins, highs and lows, hopes and fears, beliefs and non beliefs, e.t.c. Beautiful frienships happen when there are mutual understandings, efforts and loyalty. It also helps when communication is clear and you know what one another’s limits are. Believe me, when a friendship is healthy, it can give you so much satisfaction and peace.
Imagine knowing that whatever you experience can be shared with another person who would rejoice with you for your achievements, cry with you when the going isn’t good and also let you know without mincing words when you arent doing the right thing. If you have at least one person who fits into these descriptions, I daresay that you have won in this frienship thing.
It is also great to have a spirit of discernment when it comes to Friendships, and this is where understanding comes in. You can have different friends for different purposes and this isn’t bad as long as you aren’t being a user. You can have friends who you party with, you can have those who are there as your constant voice of reasoning or push to be better in worshipping God, some of them can be your accountability partners while some can be those make you laugh from time to time. Guess what? One person can be all of these too without anyone affecting the other. The onus lies on you to recognize their strengths and to know if it is okay to make them your all in one.
Always remember that while you are expecting so much of your friends, you have to be one to bring so much too. Friendship, like every other healthy relationship should never be one sided and mutual efforts will always be key. Don’t be quick to cut your friends off or judge them by one unpleasant thing that they do to you. Remember all the wonderful things they have shared with you and replay the cute moments from time to time in your memory. Nobody is perfect, and you have your imperfections too. However, if a friendship doesn’t serve you and brings you more sadness and drama than joy and peace, it is alright to let it go because not all friendships are meant to be nurtured.
I am not close minded at all when it comes to friendships and I am always accepting of new friendships. This is because I am one to believe that Life goes on and we should always explore and embrace new horizons. I keep my old friends close and I also cherish my new friends. None is better than the other, and you’ll never see me berating one for the sake of the other. Everybody has their importance and uniqueness and isn’t this what makes life beautiful?
Even with romanctic relationships, we are always enjoined to be friends first, and this is to show how important friendships are. You have to genuinely like someone to call them your friend and vice versa, and you shouldn’t be so quick to slam that label on people. Time does tell those who will be true to us, and this means that sometimes, friendship grows or doesn’t as time moves by. It is very fulfilling to be surrounded by friends who mean well for us and also to be that friend.
You’d notice that I am constantly and repeatedly talking about you too because I have realized that many people focus on the expectations they have of their friends without putting in any work. While aknowledging that someone is a good friend, you have to use similar metrics to measure yourself too and be sincere in deciding if you are good too.
It isn’t too late to build solid frienships. Our parents still make friends newly, so what is our excuse? As long as your intentions are genuine and you want to make friends for good reason, please don’t let anything deter you.You could admire someone for certain reasons and want them closer to you or as your friend, you could position yourself in the way of that person and who knows if they’d absolutely love that too. It is very okay to shoot friendship shots, you are the one who knows your reasons and goal, please go for it!
Today,I want us to think of the people we call our friends and also give a reason why we call them so. You could mention names or not, you could also just describe what Friendship means to you via the comment section. After doing this, please take it a step further by sending messages to these friends and letting them know how much you cherish them. It will totally put smiles on their faces.
I’ll be back. OBA