Blog - November 4, 2022
Day 4 :The November Happiness Challenge 2022
Did that word scare you immediately you opened this post? Hayy come here, I understand. It happens to the best of us but I’ll make an attempt at breaking it down, to show you how important it is in our daily dealings to be accountable.
Remember that time you hurt your friend, albeit non intentionally? When you did something they didn’t like and it made them feel so bad and they told you? Yes. Remember how you aknowledged their hurt and apologized to them without deflecting? How you took responsibility for your misbehaviour and found ways to make things better with them? Yes yes, that time, you held yourself accountable and do you remember how good it felt afterward especially because you didn’t let your ego come in the way of a beautiful frienship? That’s what I’m talking about.
While growing up, there was an unspoken rule in my house that we shouldn’t do late nights. Once it’s a certain time, we all have to be home and if not home, we know where the absent person is at the time. This grew with us because after many years, I realized that I had internalized the act of being accountable to at least one person regarding my movements at every point in time. Wherever I am, someone has to know about it and I also do not enjoy keepinmg late nights. I don’t go anywhwere without sharing my location with at least one person, because that is what I am used to and it has been very helful.
Your example might be different from mine, it could be you being accountable to yourself regarding healthy eating choices of dropping bad habits and so on. You become very intentional with ignoring distractions and working towards a goal by being accountable. It really helps with growth and managing personal responsibilities.
All around us, we see people who revel in the fact that they aren’t accountable to anyone, and while it might seem like it is such a wonderful thing that ensures freedom, I truly beg to differ. You need to have someone or people who hold you accountable, only then would you know that there are consequences for misdoings and this will make you more circumspect in everything you embark on. Imagine going to a store to shop and something beckons to you to steal an item, you don’t go ahead to actualize the thought because you are accountable to your personal morals and hence wouldn’t do that.
The summary of my message today is that I am preaching Accountability and imploring us to practise it because it has a lot of benefits een though it might look cumbersome at the beginning. Being accountable doesn’t make you weak, it makes you a responsible person. It makes people respect you becasue you also respect yourself by always taking responsibility when need be. It doesn;t make you less of who you are, it actually makes you more.
You need an accountability partner and this could differ per situation. I have seen situations where people are in romantic relationships and they vehemently oppose to being accountable to their spouses. This is worrisome, because if your lover cannot hold you accountable regaeding certain things, who then will? There is no pride or ego being crushed when you are accountable, it simply means you regard the relationship and you respect them.
Some leaders also believe they should never be accountable to those they lead because they are high up there. No please, this is wrong. You arer a leader for a reason, and part of ebing a leader is holding yourself accountable to the rersponsibilities that make you one. This also goes for followers to leaders, and every other sphere of life. You need to consciously internalize being accountable to the right people and for the right situations. It does help in the journey of life which encompasses Love, growth and Trust. (See what I did there?)
Today, we are going to define what Accountability means to us, in our own words, and give an instance of when we were accountable, or just state who we consider to be our Accountability Partner.
I’ll be back. OBA