Blog - November 3, 2022

Day 3 :The November Happiness Challenge 2022

TRUST

One of the most popular sayings that we currently see everywhere now is: “Trust no one”.  And guess what? A high percentage of people subscribe to it.  These people can’t exactly be blamed because they arrived at this due to the experiences they’ve had. They probably have fully trusted people in the past and this trust got betrayed. Some even tried it again and again and they got the same result, so they decided to do away with trust altogether, since it has brought them nothing but disappointment. But please, hear me out. Do you really think we can get through life without trusting one another? For a second, imagine a life without trust. You go to work everyday with the belief that you’d still find your job there, right? That’s a level of trust. You know that your parents always have your back, that is trust, and many other examples. Another way to view this is by understanding that you want people to trust you too. You don’t want people second guessing you every time because they have been burnt in the past. You want to be given a benefit of doubt, right? You want to be extended grace, you truly want to eb trusted because it is one of the ways to build integrity. I’d suggest you do that with other people too. Try to trust them at least until they give you a reason not to.

ME giving you a smile

  With our loved ones, one of the ways to fully love them in a healthy way is by trusting them. Trust is an integral part of love and once it is absent, thing might begin to fall off. Some people say that not trusting means they won’t be easily hurt but I disagree. Trusting or not trusting doesn’t protect from hurt in the long run. We can only hope that things go well and we are given the mercies to overcome tribulations. It really is better to trust and expect positives than be so untrusting and think up doom filled situations. There are no guarantees in life, as we all know, so let’s just do all we can and sincerely look forward to the best. Trust is very important in our daily endeavors, especially because we should expect the grace we extend to others. You have little ones around you who relate with you based on the trust they have for you, while you also have people that you only engage in dealings with because you have grown a level of trust for them . See? Trust is highly important. I remember having a conversation with someone who blatantly told me they didn’t trust anyone because human beings aren’t trustworthy. I explained to them that while I understood their stance and wouldn’t invalidate it, I would also like to ask them if they thought that was gthe best way to live. I reiterated on how there are indeed trustworthy people in the world and we shouldn’t allow the actions of others to invalidate them.  I also told them to remember that people would only entrust certain activities unto them, while expecting successful deliveries only because they trust their capabilities, so they should extend that to other people. Darling, if you dedcide to trust someone and they betray that trust, it isn’t on you. it is on them. Do not let anyone change who you are! and I’d leave you with this words from Anonymous : “It is better to be trusted, than  to be liked” Today, we are going to define what Trust means in  our own words, and we will make a list of the people in our lives who we believe we trust, and expect same from. I’ll be back. OBA

Comments (29)

  1. Busari Titilayo Tawa

    November 3, 2022

    Sincerely it’s disappointing when you trust and eventually got betrayed, but like you said, the honor is yours and that shouldn’t stop you from trusting again. I’m proud to say categorically I trust my children. They don’t deceive people that come their ways.When you have conscience, you’ll be trustworthy. Love this piece
    Nice pictures Ajike

    • November 4, 2022

      You are right mum, We love and trust you too so much. You are phenomenal.

  2. Busari Titilayo Tawa

    November 3, 2022

    Sincerely it’s disappointing when you trust and eventually got betrayed, but like you said, the honor is yours and that shouldn’t stop you from trusting again. I’m proud to say categorically I trust my children. They don’t deceive people that come their ways.When you have conscience, you’ll be trustworthy.
    Nice pictures Ajike

  3. Anu

    November 3, 2022

    I couldn’t view your pictures on yesterday’s post. I love love this your second picture o 🥰

    • November 4, 2022

      Thank you. beautiful Anu. Yes, I think the ofrmat was too large so I had to fix it for subsequent posts.

  4. Uchenna

    November 3, 2022

    Well written piece! Well done

    • November 4, 2022

      Thank you, my baby selense.

    • November 4, 2022

      Thank you, my baby selense.

  5. Ashiat A Lawal-Bolaji

    November 3, 2022

    I will not join issues with you on this sis, lmao😁, Trust, I have seen, experienced and learnt hard, for some of us, i think God does not want us to trust anyone but him 🤣. On a more serious note, yes ,we need to have some level of trust some time in some people, i think the wisdom here is to know who to trust cos trusting the wrong person can have serious consequences. I also completely agree that no one can live a fulfilled life without trust, not trusting anyone can be overwhelming and sad, thanks for the reminder

    • November 4, 2022

      Your first sentence got me rolling. Looool. Yes, I understand and aknowledge the experiences and how they shape us. Glad we agree that one has to have a level of trust.

  6. Rukayat

    November 3, 2022

    hmm..🤔 yes, it’s better to be trusted than to be liked. Thanks 😊 for this wonderful pieces sis🥰.

    • November 4, 2022

      You are always welcome!

  7. Rukayat

    November 3, 2022

    hmm..🤔. Yes, it’s better to be trusted than to be liked. Thanks 😊 for this wonderful pieces sis🥰.

  8. Oyeleye Barakah Omodolapo

    November 3, 2022

    Trust is a very big deal and how people takes trust these days is bad. Nice write up mama

    • November 4, 2022

      A very big deal o. We need to trust people while expecting to be trusted.

  9. Anime

    November 3, 2022

    It takes a lot to trust so it can be draining when we are let down but then we can’t stop living and doing our bit due to others. Lovely piece this is…I enjoyed reading it

    • November 4, 2022

      You are right. Living and Learning never stop.

  10. Ameenah

    November 4, 2022

    It is better to be trusted than to be liked. I feel happy when people trust me with certain things, in a way I feel I have impacted their life in a good way😁😁😁.

    • November 4, 2022

      You got it! It’s a priceless feeling.

  11. Temitope

    November 4, 2022

    Thank you for this post on trust. To survive, we can’t stop trusting. I trust my Husband, I trust my most of my friends, trust my siblings and parents. I am learning to trust people the new people in my life.

    • November 4, 2022

      It’s good that you are allowing trust. Please know that it’s okay to give it time too, as with new people.

  12. Olatoun

    November 4, 2022

    Trust for me spans across varying levels. I try to remember that the ultimate trust lies in Allah and leave room for humans to human, which sometimes is inevitable.😀

    • November 4, 2022

      Yes, this is a great way to view it.

  13. Derin

    November 4, 2022

    Investing trust trust can be very scary, I must say but You’re very right that one can not get on by life without trust. It is almost impossible.
    Nice piece dear.

  14. ENIOLA

    November 5, 2022

    Trust… Hmmm
    Trust for me comes with so many things and usually individual based. Trust can as well be categorized, and mostly based on past experiences with each person or organizations.
    Situation based when it comes to persons and history/track record when it comes to organizations.
    A person can be trusted to do right in some instances and not trusted to do right in some. Same goes for organizations.
    I don’t know how best to describe my understanding or perspective on the issue of trust than I’ve done above. I hope it makes sense to anybody that gets to read my comment.

  15. Kheffytee

    November 5, 2022

    Extend the grace you want from others to them as well, we should show some levels of trust in our dealings with pple

    • November 6, 2022

      This is very important

  16. Olaseni

    November 7, 2022

    You’ve said all that needed to be said. We do not feel safe when we go doubting everyone and we perpetually watch our back. That is definitely not a healthy way to live. Trust has been said to improve healthy communication and the opposite has a lot of negative consequences down the road.

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