Blog - November 3, 2017
Day 3: The November Happiness Challenge
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Thanks for sticking around guys. It gives me joy everyday seeing so many comments and how you all portray eagerness to participate in the challenge. I believe this is a bond that we have built and I hope it gets more strengthened as the days roll buy. You are my own Happiness dose and I won’t take you for granted.
The post Debs put up yesterday reminds me of something I went through while in Uni (I already promised ya all that there will be plenty of stories this year). I had a number of male friends while in School. I actually had many friends: Male and female and I was always the life of the party. I was very free with people and it cost nothing to me to trust and confide in them. I had this friend who I’ll be calling ‘A’. We were good friends and he used to give me gists of girls he was interested in and those who had interest in him too, He was quite pleasing to the eye and he knew this perfectly.
A was a year ahead of me so when he was in final year, I was still in my third year. After his final exams, I came across him one day in town and after exchanging pleasantries and congratulations, he complained bitterly about the fact that I had never been to his house and I was not a good friend because I ddn’t bother to know where my friend was living before he graduated. Since he had concluded his final exams and there probably would not be any other opportunity to visit, I decided to follow him home there and then. To see his house and you know, tick it off my to-do list. We walked to his house( it was a walking distance from where we were) , gisting and getting updated about recent happenings to each other.
When we arrived at his house, we went in and I sat, told him I would only stay few minutes and head back to my friend’s house because she was home waiting for me. He said no problems and left me there to his bathroom. I was even teasing him and saying I was expecting Soft drink or Snacks,as per first time visitor. Lol. He mumbled a reply then started brushing his teeth. I could hear the sound of that and I asked him why he was doing that at that time of the day. He ddn’t say anything but kept brushing his teeth. After what seemed like an eternity, he came out of the bathroom and said: “You know why I brushed my teeth? because I want to kiss you”.
Fammmm. I was shocked! Like wait, what? It was even more shocking to see the look on his eyes. He was dead serious. I looked towards the door and it was shut ( How come I ddn’t note that earlier)? I started praying internally, Like God I need a miracle. Let this not be a Nightmare I won’t wake up from. How could my own friend who I trusted so much and who even used to say I would find him a girlfriend turn around and say he wanted to kiss me? What a Wow!
My body was shaking and I was almost in tears. I just calmly told him I wanted to leave and he said I was not going anywhere. I saw him charging towards me and told myself I’d rather die than allow him to mess with me. I knew I had no chances against him because he was a guy and way more built than I was so there was no question of who was stronger. I closed my eyes and kept praying (Said all the verses I knew at the time).
Then I heard a push at the door. His roommate/friend actually had a key to the room and came in at that time, he found the door locked so he assumed no one was inside (thankfully, Mr A had removed the key after he locked it just so I would not escape and that was the same thing that helped me. Look at God!). His roommate came in, oblivious to the happening inside and not knowing the monster his friend was about to make himself. Ah, I dashed out and ran as far as my legs could carry me. It was not a funny experience because really, Only God saved me and I don’t know what would have happened.
He has begged and even sent people to beg on his behalf (Without telling them what he tried to do of course) and I have forgiven him, but sincerely guys, it made me become really skeptical about visiting ,male friends. Like please, don’t worry, we shall meet at public places. That is the end of my story. Lol
Today, we are going to do shout outs to our friends doing awesome stuff and tell them how proud we are of them. I run a business now, and I know how far it goes for friends to actually tell you they are proud of you. Even if they are not buying or taking your services at that time, that show of support is very meaningful. Go on your Social media platforms, mention a friend and show your support for what they do, tell them you are proud of them and HashtagOmotolanieeNovemberHappinessChallenge. Let’s do this!
Talking about being proud of people, that one person I will be showering praises on today is Ruqayyah of DreamwearsFashionworld. She is doing good for herself and others in the modest fashion business and I just love how she is her own ambassador. I mean, you see her pictures, outfits and overall appearance and you just want to make inquiries about how to slay beautifully like that.
DreamwearsFashionworld is dedicated to meeting all your wardrobe needs.. giving you that trendy and classy edge with swift delivery of world class brand of Modest wears :Abaya, veils, Bridal wears, Handmade footwears, designer wristwatches , shirts, Jerseys, Trousers, Tees, Jeans, Sweat pants, Bespoke Shoes, Sneakers and more luxury items. I told ya all she is doing good and she is all that right? She finish work. lol. They can be contacted via their Instagram @dreamwearsfashionworld and Whatsapp +2348162641431.
In her magnanimous nature, she is giving three clothing items to our readers and again, I want me one because they are just so gorgeous! Just look at:
A Skirt and two dresses. Whoop! Let’s see the people who get to win these :
Grins
I’ll be back guys. BOS
ILIAS
It’s good to be here, have been refreshing my mail to get notification for today. Your story and deb’s story is something virtually most ladies have been through, I think it’s a matter of wrong orientation from the part of we guyz. You don’t just assume that any girl/lady that comes to your room wants/must have something with you. It’s a wrong way of thinking but I think we owe ourselves and our future generations a reorientation to think better and threat ladies better as well.
Tolani Busari
Thanks a lot bro. Yes, I think we need to do better with raising our own children especially the boys to stop feeling so entitled to women’s bodies.
Zeenat
Jumaah mubarak guys.. The stories from yesterday and today are quite appalling, thank God u were unhurt.. May Allah continue to keep us all safe, Ameen
Btw those wears are beautiful!
Cheers guys
Tolani Busari
You too sis. Aaaamin
Hameedah
Wow, so similar to debs story. I have something similar too but I’ll just pin, story for another day. Humans disguised as monsters!
Tolani Busari
The stories are everywhere. God help us
Rahmart
May God continue to protect us from devilish men.
Tolani Busari
Aaamin.
Ameerat
Stories like these are not uncommon. Thank God you made it through. Our men seriously need to do better and desist from their sense of entitlement to a woman’s body.
Tolani Busari
Thanks sis. Thank God. I hope the next generation of men do better.
Okafor vivian
Some men are really somethin else…..any way my shout out goes to Tolani herself…though i dnt do palazo but thumbs up to u dear keep it up u inspire me alot @Tolani
Tolani Busari
Thanks a lot sister. I am happy you feel that way about me
abiola obanimomo
A lot of girls ‘re victims just like debs.some even had a terrible experience nd nt so lucky.but just like debs says we shldnt let our past define who we ‘re right nw.it’s so good to be part of this challenge.dat abaya dress is so dope.
Tolani Busari
True. Thanks for stopping by.
Aramide
Me that my mothers ‘don’t visit guys advise used to ring in my ear like alarm, I still went. No bad experiences yet but I think I would call quits
Tolani Busari
Well, there are still many amazing men out there but the terrible ones have made them quite untrustworthy. I say it’s just better safe than sorry.
Cakes
Awful!More awful because you trusted this person.Too many animals disguised as human beings.😳
Tolani Busari
Trusted him so much but he lost that.
Shay
God sure saves His people. I’ve never had a bad experience, Alhamdulillah.
Tolani Busari
Alhamdulilah
Monsurat
Man, that’s crazy. Let’s just thank God you came out unhurt. Smh, men need to do better. I’m ‘off’ SM but I’ll certainly do this. We all need to support our friends when and however we can.
Tolani Busari
Yes sis. Thank you
keefayah
Too many wolves in sheep clothing,May God continue to help us all
Tolani Busari
Aamin
Desola
Half of the men I have met just want to have their way. Its sad to think that what this generation of men wnts to do is sleep with anything in skirt. I remember in 100l, I went to visit a 200l guy with my friend to get past questions. Few minutes after we got there my friend got a call from a guy she was tripping for who saw her enter the hostel so she had to go downstairs to see her friend. After she left the 200l guy started talking about how much he loves me and he wants us to be an item and then he moved close, luckly for me the door wasn’t locked so I dashed out. That was the last time I ever visited a guy in his room.