Blog - November 17, 2016
Day 17: The Happiness Challenge
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Today is all about forgiveness.
I know this is a stretch, I know I’m probably reaching, I know some of us don’t want to hear this, I know you feel some people don’t deserve to be forgiven, I know I know I know, but!
A friend hurt me recently, I liked her a lot, trusted her too. I took her like my own family and she was an equally great person, we had the best times and I took her pains as mine. She messed up still. I cried, and I was hurt and everyone said :’hey Tolani, you trust too easy, cut it’. I kept judging her, and what she did, and I allowed a dislike to creep in, I don’t do that, I don’t like doing that, I like liking people, I really do.
Fast forward to few months after, I have been thinking about her a great deal, and how maybe I have offended people too and I just have to let go of the hurt. I feel like she might be going through some stuff and I’m here not reaching out because I’m hurt. Truth is, guys, I’m still hurt when I think about what she did and how much I trusted her but i want to reach out to her, I want to forgive her. I’m tasking myself to do that today, Pray for me, Pray that i am able to let go of the hurt totally.
We are forgiving people today. I know a lot of people would say there is nobody or nothing to forgive but hold on a bit and reflect. Is there someone who did you a wrongdoing and you feel like you have forgiven him or her but you still feel some disdain towards them? See, you haven’t really forgiven them. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you have to keep being best of friends with people who repeatedly hurt you but please make peace, let the pain go!. Think of at least one person who needs forgiveness from you and forgive them today, you don’t have to wait for their apology, just do it and save yourself the trouble of remembering them and feeling a pain clutch at your chest( That is how i feel when I’m not happy with someone).
People ask me how I cope with having many friends and how i always find a way to be happy with them, the secret is forgiveness people. some of you have small circles, it is wonderful. some of us don’t, we know a lot of people consciously or unconsciously and we try to keep our heads straight. People will err so sincerely, the best bet is learning to forgive!. It makes us healthier and happier to know that our hearts are free from hate, don’t you think?
There is this beautiful a lady I got the pleasure of getting acquainted with some years ago and she has been amazing. She makes me feel like I’m the coolest thing after Jollof rice , lol. The way she showers praises on me and keeps praying ehn, I can’t explain to you guys. she even wanted me to marry her brother, yes, she likes me that much! Her name is Marufah and she is giving out a very pretty black Abaya to one of our winners. I wish I could get it for myself because I am absolutely in love with black Abayas and I believe one can’t have enough of them but nah, A reader of mine owns this, I will carry face.
Marufah owns Smilple Modest world which is a home of Modest wears : Abaya, Kaftan, Hijab, Scarves, Ankara/Atampa, Body tops, Malaysan Dresses, Hand Sleeves and so much more. Please check out her collection on Instagram (@smilplemodestworld). she sells very beautiful things at the most affordable rates and that’s not me being sentimental, I have compared prices and trust me, Hers is no rip off! . I have some pictures of what she sells
I’ll be back. BOS
leema
forgiveness! forgiveness!! I can’t really remember any person am mad at right naw. but I won’t say a lot of people haven’t offended in one point in my life don’t I forget and let go immediately.
but anyways to all that have offended me without saying sorry. I forgive you all😎😎😎😎
omotolaniee
Looool Halima!
vivian
Forgiveness is one big thing people find it difficult to do especially when it hurts alot or maybe from someone You trusted alot. So many have hurt me especially people i do good to but one thing makes me to always forgive and forget because my bible said Forgive so that you can be forgiven cos i know i might have offended someone too in way or the other. so i do, so that i can also receive mercy from God.
what do u really think of this sentence, Its easy to forgive but cannot forget? How can one really try to forget what he or she has forgiven? Just like an adage that says the wound will heal but the scare remains……….. Any idea will be appreciated……
uthmanzaynab
Forgiveness is such a hard thing to do really, especially when the person who hurt you is someone you really liked. Forgetting is even harder. May Allah make it easy and soften our hearts.
PS: I want a black abaya so bad😩😩😩
omotolaniee
Yes my sister, May Allah really soften our hearts. About the black abaya, who knows? You might just gerrit!
ENIOLA
There’s only one person I’m still struggling to forgive. Pls pray with me to be able to.
omotolaniee
I think i know that person. Please try sis, you have a good heart and you can do it
Zeenat
I ve come to realize that when u forgive someone who hurt you, then u ll be at peace with yourself.
And I tell myself that if God can forgive us then who are we not to forgive fellow humans..
Hence, I guess those thots help me forgive easily,may Allah make it easy on us all..
PS- Those abayas r lovely,rooting to win one of em!
omotolaniee
Amin. I hope you win it too. lol
Afolabi Monsurat
Forgiveness sha? Sigh. I forget things easily but i don’t forgive. The reverse should be the case ba? But that’s just me. I forgive by forgetting lol. Anyways, I’ll just genuinely whoever comes to mind that I have hurt me. And her Abayas are lovely! I pray I win it.
omotolaniee
Hmnn sis kolorun shaanu o.
Aminah
I want a black abaya😍 Forgiveness is hard really, especially forgiveness without an apology, may Allah make it easy for us
omotolaniee
Aaaamin. Please please you have the cutest black abayas already. Be going
Toyin
I’ve had this on my mind for a while now, tell myself I will and I won’t ….someone hurt me,it’s been 2months now holding on to it. I’ve decided to call and settle it so I can forgive this person, forgive myself and move on. It’s not going to be easy but I have to do that for myself.
omotolaniee
Please do it, May Allah make it easy
Miss F
Lol. I honestly don’t forgive easily, astagfurllah. Which is way I TRY hard not to get offended. I’m the type that cut people off and totally forget about them. Like totally! I’m really not proud of it, to be quite honest. May Allah make it easy for me Sha. 😄
PS: I hate to say this, Atolly, but you are friendliest person I’ve ever met. Like how do you not get tired of having so much friends? And you keep up with them all? You are a special breed oh, one bajinotu for you later.
omotolaniee
A maa be olorun fun e, you laiskeen people have strong heart gan, smh. May Allah make it easy for you sis. Ehn ehn, you hate to say it? Please why are you laidis forgussakes. Thainz sha
Shona
Wait wait… Is that my picture I see there???
How come?
Anyway I want that very first abaya. The blue and white with the flowers!
I had a friend ( I really hate using the word friends) because we ain’t friends anymore who after how much I tried to be concerned just decided from her side that she didn’t want to be friends with me anymore. And I just accepted that plus she wasn’t even healthy for me.. I’m not sure I’ve forgiven her for just throwing me off the bus without any good reason but I think Allah just answered my dua honestly. And in a few months time..I moved on like nothing ever happened.
omotolaniee
Oh i thought you got the scarf from her and that’s why the picture is there, or maybe she just used it to describe it. Idk. About your friend, I know how painful that can be , May Allah make it easy for you to forgive her fully
Shona
I’ve forgiven her ooo…
vivaciousdee
It find it easy to forgive, but things might not be the way it used to be. I also do not trust people again after I have forgiven them so it makes been cool friends with them difficult. I am working at trusting people again after forgiving them. The collections above are really lovely, I love the nude top with the cape hand.
omotolaniee
I totally understand. May God make forgiving easier for us
Bunmi
Finally found my way here and the first message I get to see is forgiveness!
On this very day in my life, this becomes a message from God and you’re serve as His messenger.
God bless and reward you Omotolani 👏🏽❤️.
Debs
Hm, forgiveness!!! Quite hard but with time I believe one will get over the pain and hurt. These abayas are lovely tho…