Blog - November 17, 2016
Day 17: The Happiness Challenge
Today is all about forgiveness.
I know this is a stretch, I know I’m probably reaching, I know some of us don’t want to hear this, I know you feel some people don’t deserve to be forgiven, I know I know I know, but!
A friend hurt me recently, I liked her a lot, trusted her too. I took her like my own family and she was an equally great person, we had the best times and I took her pains as mine. She messed up still. I cried, and I was hurt and everyone said :’hey Tolani, you trust too easy, cut it’. I kept judging her, and what she did, and I allowed a dislike to creep in, I don’t do that, I don’t like doing that, I like liking people, I really do.
Fast forward to few months after, I have been thinking about her a great deal, and how maybe I have offended people too and I just have to let go of the hurt. I feel like she might be going through some stuff and I’m here not reaching out because I’m hurt. Truth is, guys, I’m still hurt when I think about what she did and how much I trusted her but i want to reach out to her, I want to forgive her. I’m tasking myself to do that today, Pray for me, Pray that i am able to let go of the hurt totally.
We are forgiving people today. I know a lot of people would say there is nobody or nothing to forgive but hold on a bit and reflect. Is there someone who did you a wrongdoing and you feel like you have forgiven him or her but you still feel some disdain towards them? See, you haven’t really forgiven them. Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying you have to keep being best of friends with people who repeatedly hurt you but please make peace, let the pain go!. Think of at least one person who needs forgiveness from you and forgive them today, you don’t have to wait for their apology, just do it and save yourself the trouble of remembering them and feeling a pain clutch at your chest( That is how i feel when I’m not happy with someone).
People ask me how I cope with having many friends and how i always find a way to be happy with them, the secret is forgiveness people. some of you have small circles, it is wonderful. some of us don’t, we know a lot of people consciously or unconsciously and we try to keep our heads straight. People will err so sincerely, the best bet is learning to forgive!. It makes us healthier and happier to know that our hearts are free from hate, don’t you think?
There is this beautiful a lady I got the pleasure of getting acquainted with some years ago and she has been amazing. She makes me feel like I’m the coolest thing after Jollof rice , lol. The way she showers praises on me and keeps praying ehn, I can’t explain to you guys. she even wanted me to marry her brother, yes, she likes me that much! Her name is Marufah and she is giving out a very pretty black Abaya to one of our winners. I wish I could get it for myself because I am absolutely in love with black Abayas and I believe one can’t have enough of them but nah, A reader of mine owns this, I will carry face.
Marufah owns Smilple Modest world which is a home of Modest wears : Abaya, Kaftan, Hijab, Scarves, Ankara/Atampa, Body tops, Malaysan Dresses, Hand Sleeves and so much more. Please check out her collection on Instagram (@smilplemodestworld). she sells very beautiful things at the most affordable rates and that’s not me being sentimental, I have compared prices and trust me, Hers is no rip off! . I have some pictures of what she sells
I’ll be back. BOS