Blog - November 10, 2017

Day 10: The November Happiness Challenge

Hi everyone. I know so many female bosses and it gives me plenty joy. Call me anything, I love it when females are defying all odds and getting their stuff together without being liabilities. One of these people is Aisha, the  the CEO At Shatouu scarves and believe me when I say her scarves are really pretty. I like the crinkle ones especially and words on the streets say that they are very affordable.  Shatouu provides chic & easy to wear premium scarves for the everyday girl, they  have the premium chiffon scarves, premium cotton crinkle scarves, pleat scarves to name a few and also, other scarf accessories . They can be contacted via Instagram-@Shatouu and Twitter-@aishaa_aah. There is something affordable brands so to me, it is awesome how we can get access to the best things without having to cut our necks for it. Look at these pretty pieces she will be giving to our readers. Sometime last year, I got a DM from a pretty young lady and we got talking. Along the line, we realized we grew up in the same neighborhood and I know other members of her family. She is more like a long lost little sister that God brought my way again through Social Media and this is one of the reasons I never underestimate online platforms. Her name is Aramide and we will be reading from her today. She writes: The year started very good I can say. I had my grades in check, your girl was having fun and was always happy. It seemed my only responsibility in life was to make good grades, make my parents happy by being on my best behavior and please my lord. A very happy girl some friends would say or even crazy; others said things like carefree but pffft. One thing was for sure, I was living just for the moment and catching my fun. The year was really uneventful until I was dealt a big blow by life. Because life happens anyways; planned or unplanned. Don’t get me wrong, I get my really sad gloomy days that make me nothing but a bore to people around me. We all have our down times but I’m mostly a happy person, ‘no boredom here’ was my motto. The month of September was more than challenging for me because I was sad most of the times. I did not have any reason for this, all i knew was there was no happiness here, but then I had to be happy and cheerful for people around me. At some point I was ready to shut the world out; I even think I did it for a while but it did not work. Either because I can’t totally do that or because the world wouldn’t let me.I had wonderful people around that noticed and always reminded me I deserve to be happy and that; i was mostly grateful for.Most friends did not notice because I decided to keep it all to myself. For those that did, I think they decided to write it off as I told them it was PMS. My go to excuse for the many mood swings I experienced. I deserve happiness… This is something that needs to be instilled in every of our minds. Not at the back, but at the forefront of our minds. Somewhere we can easily remind ourselves of its importance.I couldn’t pinpoint the reason for my sadness as I spoke to my parents most of the times but it didn’t seem to be enough. I am so accustomed to calling my mother in my sad moments but this time was different. It didn’t work.All the people and places I go to for happiness did not seem to provide the expected happiness. I found myself waking up everyday with a heart full of thanks but no vibe at all to be happy or drive to even have fun which normally helps in my quest for happiness. I was even told to go out with friends severally but I chose the comfort of my bed and twitter for my happiness. Don’t get me wrong, twitter dishes me some of the best laughter everyday but it wasn’t enough either.I realized I was sinking into a hole that would be difficult for me to get out from. I prayed hard and asked God to give me profound happiness. I couldn’t continue to wallow in self-sadness (because I was obviously the cause. My mind was playing tricks with me) at least to my knowledge I did not have any reason to be sad. I’ve got family and wonderful people that loves me, I had more than enough blessings and I had to just be thankful. So I started giving more thanks to Allah because without him none of what I have would be mine.I was only sad because I had made my mind up to be. So what are you programming your mind to be? A happy or sad mind? Take a moment to ask yourself this question and answer honestly. I don’t own a house or lands, neither do I have millions in my account but I have lots of things to be thankful for; family, friends, good health and wellbeing, sound mind, vision, hearing ability and a whole bunch of other things a lot of people don’t have.Not that I don’t want millions ooo, but I have more than a million things to be thankful for. This is November and guess what? it’s my happy month. I’m not allowing any negativity in my life as I’ve made my mind up to be happy.I’m going to take my broke ass window shopping, I’m going to dance and talk to mama every other day and listen to my father’s one-minute voice notes 10 times. I’m going to eat and eat because food is bae, go out and have fun with friends, I’m going to spend the little I can in charity, because these things make me happy.What makes you happy? I’m going to choose happiness now and always, why? Because I deserve it. Choose happiness too because you deserve it. Yes YOU!!! I am enjoining you all to choose happiness this month and always. No matter how heavy that burden seems to be, believe it’s a phase and it shall pass. So choose happiness,Just the way I did, look at me. Aramide is telling us that we are only as happy as we make our minds up to be so she is imploring us that today, right now, we should choose happiness and tell that to ourselves. I’ll be back. BOS