Blog - November 4, 2015
DAY 3: THE NOVEMBER HAPPINESS CHALLENGE
Hello everyone.
We are progressing, Aren’t we? It’s Day 3 already. If you are just joining us, you can still check for the first day
here and the second day
here. It isn’t too late to do those two. In fact, the idea is that it should be a consistent activity. Yesterday, many people reached out to me and to say I was overwhelmed might be an understatement. People told me how happy their parents were for the gestures they made and I even got some screen munches as evidence. This is one
To encourage fairness, I did mine too . My dad was really surprised and he even told my mum about it. Papa was probably scared sef. lol. This is what I sent to him.
I sent a similar one to mum and see what she said :d
See guys, my mum is on another level with this ‘soji’ thing. She no dey carry last! LOL. Back to the business…
It isn’t a fallacy that many of us fall out with friends and acquaintances from time to time. This isn’t far fetched because we are all human and our actions can’t sit well with one another all the time. People will hurt us, We’ll hurt people, consciously or unconsciously. It could be because of sayings or deeds. This then leads to the dreaded ‘Malice’ which most times, does not lead to good things. No matter how strong minded we think we are, Malice has a way of draining us and sometimes making us feel miserable. You need something from someone or you just want to reach out to that person and you remember you bear a grudge, It could be really saddening.
I understand that we fall out with some people because we had to and it seems the best for us but can we at least keep things civil? Be on ‘hello’ levels? Detoxify our minds of all hate and displeasure? No, I’m not trying to paint myself as the seemingly perfect human who never holds grudges. I do, in fact I’m sure there are many people who have one or two things against me. ( *Weeps*). My only solace lies in the fact that I can’t hold on to grudges for long. Someday, I will reach out! That is how I’m wired. Everything is better when we are at peace with ourselves and those around us. This might seem like a tall dream but trust me, It is achievable.
Peace brings happiness and Isn’t that what this challenge is about? We have to be happy!
So darling readers, here is the challenge for today!:
- Think of that friend you haven’t been cool with. Whether you are right or wrong doesn’t exactly matter
- Text/call. In fact, Calling would do the magic.
- Let the person know you just wanted to say Hello and check up on him/her.
- Watch the person get surprised and watch the happiness creep in on you.
- Feed us back!
I’d surely do same too and give you guys a feedback tomorrow..
Wednesday smile? I didn’t forget . I’m not feeling very well today but I still managed a smile for you!
I’ll be back. BOS
To encourage fairness, I did mine too . My dad was really surprised and he even told my mum about it. Papa was probably scared sef. lol. This is what I sent to him.
I sent a similar one to mum and see what she said :d
See guys, my mum is on another level with this ‘soji’ thing. She no dey carry last! LOL. Back to the business…
It isn’t a fallacy that many of us fall out with friends and acquaintances from time to time. This isn’t far fetched because we are all human and our actions can’t sit well with one another all the time. People will hurt us, We’ll hurt people, consciously or unconsciously. It could be because of sayings or deeds. This then leads to the dreaded ‘Malice’ which most times, does not lead to good things. No matter how strong minded we think we are, Malice has a way of draining us and sometimes making us feel miserable. You need something from someone or you just want to reach out to that person and you remember you bear a grudge, It could be really saddening.
I understand that we fall out with some people because we had to and it seems the best for us but can we at least keep things civil? Be on ‘hello’ levels? Detoxify our minds of all hate and displeasure? No, I’m not trying to paint myself as the seemingly perfect human who never holds grudges. I do, in fact I’m sure there are many people who have one or two things against me. ( *Weeps*). My only solace lies in the fact that I can’t hold on to grudges for long. Someday, I will reach out! That is how I’m wired. Everything is better when we are at peace with ourselves and those around us. This might seem like a tall dream but trust me, It is achievable.
Peace brings happiness and Isn’t that what this challenge is about? We have to be happy!
So darling readers, here is the challenge for today!:
I’ll be back. BOS
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Thinking of a friend I’m not cool with is gon be a hard task, I seem to have too many people who have wronged me one way or another, however I’ll do my best to reach out to those whom I’ve wronged as well, ID like to feel that surprise on their faces when I call. Thanks for this.
omotolaniee
You are welcome. Please do, you’d be amazed at how far it can go. Bless you dear
MrJayCouture
This might be a bit hard or ‘unaccomplishable’, if there’s a word like that, for me. Why?! Because I can’t seem to remember anybody I’m not cool with. Thought deeply for about 5mins+, but none is popping up. I’m just free-spirited. Even when you hurt me, but why would you even hurt me?!, I just take it as one of those things and then move on. It doesn’t ever stop me from saying “Hey! What’s up” the following morning. That’s just me. Before you could do something that’d be that painful to me, omo you go don try gaan. And when that happens, I may hold it for a while, but, shii would just keep eating me up, and i’ll chat you up, or text, or call, or when next we have anything together, I let you know what you did the last time didn’t go down well with me. And i’ll add that it’s not like I’m holding it against you though, but I just want to let you know. As soon as that is done…VIOLA! I’m back to normal with you.
Someone might actually pop up in my head later in the week or month though, nobody’s flawless, but for now, ain’t nobody I ain’t cool with like so so.
Thanks for today’s challenge cutie. Keep it up.
And, that smile……no, those lips….ok, wait, you ever heard someone kiss a smile?! ………
omotolaniee
That is an awesome disposition to life. Wow! I wish to be that way too but these mortals. *sigh*. Lol about my smile, I reserve my comment!
hadeydhamola
I don’t have any1 m not cool with. I forgive way too easily. My mum says ‘Ti eyan ban Se ore kama Faye ija sile’. I guess I always have it at the back of my mind that we’re all humans. So for today, its no activity for me.
omotolaniee
Wow that’s awesome o. Totally! Please keep it up
Reesqot
Today’s challenge is hard for me tbh not because I can’t call or don’t have people I might have wronged(nobody is perfect nor flawless)…. I always tried to satisfy those I once called friends, I did everything, be there for everyone I could even when no one noticed the tears behind my smile. I just want to be happy, chances after chances and it is still the same,how much pain can fit in a person? I once sent a message out to everyone, I apologized and closed the doors. I’m really done and don’t want to knock back on all the doors I once closed.
omotolaniee
Awww Reesqot. I’m so sorry about that. I know how hard it can be to keep giving people chances which they always misuse. It can be really hurtful . But you know what? As good muslims, the strife continues. We just have to keep trying. May Allah ease our tasks
ahmed
Tolani hot hot… this is not a comment.. cos whatever I have to see cannot match the beauty of this piece..so what id do is to share.. I cant stomach all dis alone.. God bless you and increase you in knowledge.. peace
omotolaniee
Lol Ahmed! You flatter me too much, you know. Thanks dear
Omopariola oladeke
Would think of any friend(s) I have a grudge with and holla at them
omotolaniee
Yaay Please do.
leema
Friends am not cool with? Hmmmmmmm! Can’t think of any! Cos i forgive easily and let go as well. So am just gonna call those that have not heard from for a long time.
omotolaniee
That’s awesome Leemah. Please do that!
Abimbola Abio Idrees
Today’s challenge is hard for me tbh not because I can’t call or don’t have people I might have wronged(nobody is perfect nor flawless)…. I always tried to satisfy those I once called friends, I did everything, be there for everyone I could even when no one noticed the tears behind my smile. I just want to be happy, chances after chances and it is still the same,how much pain can fit in a person? I once sent a message out to everyone, I apologized and closed the doors. I’m really done and don’t want to knock back on all the doors I once closed.
‘I Had to repost Resqot Cos, she actually posted exactly what I’ld have wished to post.
“Only God Forgives n Forgets”
We Humans Only Forgive n forget as far As we don’t see tha person that did us wrong,hurt or has offended. Us; moment we see that person again, we remember tha wrong they did to us n prolly, feel that pain again!’
So many people Have wronged me.. Like, words can’t describe how much of. Damages/hurts humans have done to me.
So, I feel calling them to say ‘Hi’/it’s all over n we good when truly we Not even a step closer to that n canNever Be is just Mere hypocrisy on my part!
See Ehn.. *removes. Glasses*
*wipes tears*
I pray Allah SWT forgive Us All!
God Bless Yo!:)
omotolaniee
Looool got me confused for a minute because I was sure I had seen that comment before. Hmnn, I get your point but you could still try. Please?
Adetunji
That smile for me? that’s all i get from here, i dont keep malice, i do fall out with friends and then the next minute i call him/her and then my siblings will say i thought you and so, so n so arent in terms anymore? and den i’ll say, dont mind me jare. that’s me for you.
omotolaniee
Awesome! Thanks brother
Adetunji
Day 4 nko?
Eniwealth
No wonder I missed this post. Nba, there’s no challenge for me here.
A friend once told me, ” some friends should only be a phone call away, not on some or all your social media accounts”. And I intend to keep it that way with a particular one.
I’m sorry dear, I ‘ll pass on this one today.
omotolaniee
Aww love. The post doesnt necessarily tell you to have friends on your IMs. you don’t even need to be close to them, just keep things civil and hold no grudge.