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Hi, Rib!

December 11, 2015

They say you are my rib, my missing rib, It gets me confused. Do I really have a missing rib, or is this just literary language being manipulated to emphasize your importance?

I heard you’ll always be there for me. Always is a huge word, Is this a myth? Or there are indeed possibilities of you creating a presence with me consistently?

It was read that You and I would become one once we are entwined. Does this happen? Do we share the body parts equally? Mash them up like potatoes and and dish out into plates? For each person?

This girl talks, more often than not. She likes to be heard, to be encouraged , to be appreciated and made to feel relevant. Are those tall dreams, are they unattainable feats , Do you listen? Would you listen?

I laugh, a lot. My happiness sprouts from any and everything. Making others happy, that is important to me. I want to make you happy, Rib, Would you let me?

I believe in God. a creation so supreme that has the world under His hold. I pray to Him every time, about the littlest things. I whisper, and He listens. Whisper with me, Let’s talk to Him in hushed voices together. Let’s join Forces to worship. Pray with me!

Respect is most beautiful when It is reciprocated. I want to respect you, respect the Institution that binds us. I’d place you above, place you high up, look up to you, defend your honour. Would you do same for me?

The realities I have seen, around me and far away are laden with sorrowful experiences. Friends have nothing joyful to say, Many are full of regret.  It is saddening. Let’s avoid these? Let’s manage differences amicably? Prevent regrets?

The stories I have read, that I grew up absorbing, The Cinderella stories, They gave me an idea. Of a possible fantasy filled world. I crave that, badly. I want that , so much. Can we seek it, together?

I am adventurous. I have aspirations, I want to shine, the ability to think farther than the immediate present rushes the adrenaline in my system. Are you like me? Do you have more energy or would you rather let us suppress them? I want to listen. I’m listening.

There will be struggles, personal and joint battles. I would have suggested we discard the use of the word ‘personal’ but I want to be able to give you some ‘space’ while you give me some. By some, I really mean minutes, few few minutes.

Allow me to show you care, bare my soul, cry out to you, share the biggest bond with you, make me your muse, your queen, your baby, your woman and your everything.

How about Coital? there is an almost non existent experience around here. I’d like to learn, with you. I’d like to explore, know, understand, yearn and appreciate you in those aspects. You alone. Teach me?

You are handsome, rib. You look like chocolate dipped in honey. I cant wait to feel your skin next to mine, intertwined in pleasure, with no barriers of sin!

Faithfulness is key on our path to success. Riding on this road, there will be thorns. Roses are thorned anyways. My loyalty to relationships is that with a strong hold. I will be faithful to you, I will have eyes for no one else. Just you, my king.

There will be offers, advances, on both sides. Wolves don’t get easily discouraged but  they can be  sent away with adequate determination. Let’s create no allowance for devouring wolves. Help me to help you, please.

I have fears. Lots of them. Vulnerability is so huge and the whole cover of being strong is a monumental facade. There are walls built but with not so strong blocks, break them down, destroy them. Leave no barricade, none of it.

Show me your world. Allow me to understand you. I know this is about us, both of us. I know nobody has perfection embedded in them but I know you are perfect for me. Your smile is beautiful, give me the chance to smile with you.

I never want to be selfish. I want to pace your needs at the level I place mine. This might seem hard, but It is a possible feat. I can’t do this alone, but with you, everything seems achievable

I am a hopeful Romantic. Not hopeless because I am trying very hard to not sound cliche. The kids will see, feel and understand love, because this shall be the language of our home.

Many things are unclear to me. Like Sleeping arrangements? I hear some ‘Ribs’ sleep in separate rooms. I grew up seeing folks share the same room and bed. I am confused. Would you go for the former? or allow me to enjoy more, the luxury of what I am used to?

The kids will come, I want two of them, Armani and Sultan. Okay , One more for you. Three? You want four? Come on, maybe double twins, who knows? They will be trained, steadfast in the deen, better than us, in appreciating the creator and His creations.

Have I met you yet? Everyone says there are chances you are here already and I’m being evasive.  Is that the case? Or are you still on your way to me? Preparing for forever with me?  Get across soon maybe?

There is so much passion waiting to be unleashed, so much love waiting to escape, so much bottled up emotions patiently clamoring for a show. Waiting to be seen, to be heard.

I’d like to know your plans too, do they tally? Compromises will happen, I’m ready for those.There is so much more to share, but I’d like to look into your eyes and say them because they are for us, for us alone. Just us two.

I pray for you everyday, Rib. When are you coming by?

Your woman







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  • Reply Qudus December 11, 2015 at 4:06 pm

    This is niceeeeeee! I love it.

  • Reply ahmed exbae December 11, 2015 at 4:09 pm

    You know how to make someone emotional ehnn.. but yet Hiaann.. I forgive u sha.. touchy touchy something.

  • Reply ayo December 11, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    My very own RIB…..#yew are on fire

  • Reply olabimpe December 11, 2015 at 4:22 pm

    awwwn….this is too beautiful *wipes tears*
    Dear ‘rib’ even if I can’t pen such beautiful piece to you….still come find me soon.***
    thumbs up love!!!

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:45 am

      Thank you Olabimpe mi. Soon baby!

  • Reply doyinsola December 11, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    Brilliant brilliant Omotolani, u’re a great writer, so proud of you

  • Reply leema December 11, 2015 at 4:30 pm

    Awwwwwwwww!!! So cute😢😢😢😢 Armani and sultan 😣😣😣😣. Here is a message from RIB to you.
    RIB :: Am coming baby😊 hang in there.

    Worry no more sweetie.your rib will find you soon In sha Allah.

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:44 am

      Haleema my love, thanks hun. Amin

  • Reply Marto December 11, 2015 at 4:35 pm

    This is a wonderful composition. God please give me the rib meant for me

  • Reply modolay December 11, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    This is a beautiful
    piece… *misty eyes*

  • Reply Bukkyp December 11, 2015 at 4:59 pm

    Your rib is with me,we having drinks atm LOL…. Lovely write up babe.

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:44 am

      Unserious element, lol. Oshay b

  • Reply Mozys December 11, 2015 at 5:02 pm

    Dear RIB,we must have 12kids…sincerely, your Rib

    Nice one Tolani

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:43 am

      Lool just look at. Thanks dear

  • Reply Itansan December 11, 2015 at 5:05 pm

    Soon. Yes, soon. It’s worth all the waiting. In a lifetime the waiting period, no matter how long, dissolves in moments. Great piece, Tolani.

  • Reply Muhsinat 'Deen December 11, 2015 at 5:07 pm


  • Reply Tobby December 11, 2015 at 5:09 pm

    My rib!!!!
    It got me all excited!…Yaaay!

  • Reply Olatunde December 11, 2015 at 5:40 pm

    Nice one!

  • Reply Fateemah December 11, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Aww soo deep! Love ittt! ❤️❤️❤️

  • Reply David Fadiora December 11, 2015 at 5:55 pm

    This is really nice. The wait will be worth it.

  • Reply hadeydhamola December 11, 2015 at 6:17 pm

    I kept awwww-ing till d end. Beautifully written piece I must say!

  • Reply Sola December 11, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    I was smiling while reading this, as if I’m the one you were referring to. Lmaooooo… He’s coming b. 🙂

  • Reply Bukkiebay December 11, 2015 at 6:47 pm

    This piece is really amazing Tolani. So real, so touching, so inspiring! May all our ‘Rib’ desires be met soon. You deserve the best!

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:41 am

      My love, thanks so much. Amin and you too

  • Reply Temmy December 11, 2015 at 6:50 pm

    There will be struggles, personal and joint battles. I would have suggested we discard the use of the word ‘personal’ but I want to be able to give you some ‘space’ while you give me some. By some, I really mean minutes, few few minutes.
    I love this verse 😍😍😘

  • Reply M. December 11, 2015 at 7:31 pm

    You had me at the kids names. Beautiful 💖

  • Reply Leeyhah December 11, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    Beautiful lettering**

  • Reply Bunmi December 11, 2015 at 10:03 pm

    I’m wowed by this! This, this is beyond beautiful ❤️👏🏽. Permission to share on fingaprint? Yes! Thank you 🤓😍👍🏽😄

    • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:39 am

      Thank you Oluwabunmi, you make me better

  • Reply Z December 12, 2015 at 12:22 am

    Fantastic piece, I’m pretty sure rib is closer tyt han you imagine. Great stuff deR

  • Reply Molola December 12, 2015 at 3:34 am

    This is so beautiful *wipes lone tear*

  • Reply Apheyz December 12, 2015 at 8:19 am

    Best I’ve read in a long while, you’re going places babes, in shaa Allah

  • Reply omotolaniee December 12, 2015 at 10:40 am

    Thanks Bukky!

  • Reply Abdullah December 12, 2015 at 12:00 pm

    Liked this. Kudos!

  • Reply fireoffenoya December 12, 2015 at 6:48 pm

    People say forever is a promise that can neva be fulfilled……… I say even if u can’t love her forever, just love her everyday for as long as u live. Hope ur rib comes ASAP.*.

  • Reply Olajumoke December 13, 2015 at 5:50 am

    Wow, just wow…. Beautifully written, straight from the innermost parts of the heart. I’m sure lots and lots can relate with this, thanks for letting the thoughts of many find an expression. The wait will surely be worth it. Weldone Omotolani the Writer, XO

  • Reply Eniola December 13, 2015 at 8:08 am

    This is an open letter, intentionally unaddressed, somebody better catch his sub o! Lol
    Sweet” write up dear.
    The fourteenth paragraph resonates with me. #winks

    • Reply omotolaniee December 14, 2015 at 8:30 am

      Thanks Iyawo. Lol @ the fourteenth line

  • Reply Fausiat December 13, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    Lovely poem. Really

  • Reply Adetunji December 14, 2015 at 5:29 pm

    I’m here now!
    we’ve met babey!!
    You are so gifted with words babey but then love is more than fantasy, the reality of love is endurance, perseverance. No smooth road, never ever smooth, always skirmishes here n there. But i Pray he share your passion, Have your strength for adventure to explore the realities of love/life. I know of a socialites, an entertainer, a lively person, who got married to a total introvert, whose life is work to home 247 even at home, she’s always indoor, why the hubby explore the world n all yet their marriage still stand. I think love is living your dream, living with someone that piss u off yet u werent pissed. my own experience is kinda!!! now 5yrs into the life time event and now, she doesnt piss me off!!! even when she does something offend, yet i found it difficulty to get pissed annoyed. Life is an exam with different questions for each of us!! you might dream, wish, crave but it rest on the Almighty to give what befit. Peace..

    • Reply omotolaniee December 15, 2015 at 8:51 am

      Thank you brother. Peace to you too

  • Reply ibukunolagbemiro December 14, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    Very nice lines. Unhindered by the technicalities of literature, left to flow like the current from a spring – pure and fresh. Well done Omotolaniee.

  • Reply Seunremi December 15, 2015 at 6:39 am

    This is too emotional and very lovely… Wow!!! 😓 Where is my rib❤️❤️? You are genius Omotolani

    • Reply omotolaniee December 15, 2015 at 8:53 am

      Your rib is on his way to you baby girl

  • Reply sueddie December 16, 2015 at 10:27 pm

    Long sha o…but oh well, let him read everything in advance. You never can be too sure with rhwae ribs of ours sef…

    Well done!

  • Reply Ameera December 16, 2015 at 10:30 pm

    Very nice write-up. I can’t wait to find my missing rib!

  • Reply Anonymous December 27, 2015 at 3:47 am

    😿😱… Well written !!! Allah will bless you with what your heart desires and what is good for you !!!

  • Reply ahmeedat January 7, 2016 at 11:59 am

    I love this piece especially the rhetorical question…this is just reality of life…

  • Reply mercurialpinky August 24, 2016 at 4:28 pm

    💖💖💖 it’s a beautiful thing. This is deep

  • Reply Larmmie October 20, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    Omg! Tolani!!!
    I love love this…😭😭♥️♥️ I can’t wait to meet this “rib” of mine. I’m happy for you b♥️

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